signs of toxic people
Whenever narcs and other abusers, go on the attack, it's not because someone has _done_ something to them, it's because someone has told them NO. If you refuse to play along with their dramas, you've said No to being controlled by them. If you speak the truth you've said No to their lies. If you go No Contact with them you've said No to their being the centre of the universe. If you get on with your life you've said No to validating the sick way they choose...
Narcissists are the most dishonest people you'll ever met. They'll provoke you and verbally attack you. When you react to their abuse and defend yourself, they'll turn either rageful or play the victim in front of others to make you look bad. They are con artist who are spiteful and revengeful.
Unawareness in a Narcissistic Personality Disorder Abusive Relationship
The problem with a lot of abusive relationships is that the “abused” becomes unaware that he or she is "in an abusive relationship. They become completely unaware of the power dynamic within the relationship and how it is being used to control them." - good article linked